Anyone playing the piano or another instrument can go through some personal crises from time to time. Just as playing an instrument is associated with beautiful moments; sometimes we can feel that we are not doing well. Sometimes we do not enjoy playing as we would expect to or we feel that we are not good enough despite all the effort we put into it.

Let me assure you that feeling this from time to time is perfectly normal and it is a part of your growth. Of course no one wants to stay feeling down too long so I have written down couple of tips that can help you to tackle your next crisis.

1. Avoid insermountable expectations

Playing the piano is about gaining a new skill, a very complex process, so you cannot become an expert overnight. It’s a skill that takes time, patience and hard work. Expecting quick results would only put you off as playing the piano should be a long term game. It’s a lifetime learning process, and it is up to you how far you will get. Instead of expectations to master the piano and pass exams in the short term, embrace every modicum of progress you make.

Think of where you were a couple of months ago and where are you now. Review the work you have done and don’t be afraid to work on your weaknesses. Instead of looking far into the future, make the most of what you have now. Expecting quick results only serves to disillusion yourself; playing the piano is all about growing in time.

2. Stop comparing yourself with others

It’s so easy to compare yourself to someone else, and It’s so easy to set restrictions like “I have played this piece countless times, and it is still not good enough; I should not be playing the piano”. This approach is very short-sighted. Playing the piano or any instrument should not be about comparing yourself to others. As mentioned above – playing the piano is a lifetime journey. If you are thinking in short term horizons, then you certainly won’t gain much. But if you get into it, you will see how much it can affect you in many positive ways.

Many people think that you must be talented to be able to play the piano. Let me assure you that although natural talent is certainly beneficial, it is worthless without the dedication and practise. I have seen unnaturally talented pupils who worked hard go farther by miles than, “gifted,” students who put little to no effort into their practise.

3. Be humble and kind to yourself

When you play the piano – you might reveal and work with different aspects of your personality (anxiety, impatience, continuous inner tension, lack of focus). That’s why playing an instrument is such a delicate thing as you are revealing yourself and bringing yourself more balance while actively gaining control over feelings that emerge. What always helps me to feel humble when it comes to my playing and to get inspired is to listen to world class pianists.

You might get upset, anxious, impatient, and you will keep making mistakes. Let me assure you this is entirely normal. All mistakes are happening to help you to grow; not to scare you. It’s a part of the process, and it is a part of you. As long as you accept it and keep working on it, I promise you that one day you may find yourself much more conscious and playing better than you were some time ago. Just don’t give up, the results will come one day, and it will be worth it.